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4 Ways to Self Heal After a Bad Breakup

4 Ways to Self Heal After a Bad Breakup

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    Aug 17, 2016   Author : admin

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We have different ways of coping up with an ugly heartbreak and it usually differs from one person to another. Others drown themselves in liquor and alcohol, while some use a support group such as friends to distract themselves from thinking about their ex. However, there's a better way to fuel up your nightly sobfest: climb mountains, travel, and going on countless adventures. But oftentimes, jumping into the next relationship seems like the easier route, right? Well, not really. Here's why you need to enjoy being single for a while after going through a (very) bad breakup:

Time to Do the Things You’ve Always Dreamed of Doing

Being freed from a dark and terrifying pit of despair and disappointment now is the perfect time to bounce back and do the things you’ve always dreamed of doing. Wanting to move to another country but too terrified to leave your ex-lover? Now you can do so without thinking of the other person. Itching to go somewhere far and remote? For crying out loud, book that plane ticket and travel solo. Now that you’ve earned your freedom, live your life and take control of it for no one will do it except you. 

Time to Become the Brave and Independent Woman That You Always Are

As one quote goes, “Kill that part of you that believes it can’t survive without someone else.” You are one beautiful woman filled with life, brimming with vibrancy and colors so never leap into the possibility of another relationship for it might only wear you down once more. You are given this chance of being on your own so make the most of it by mustering the courage to fly solo and spend some time alone. As Elizabeth Gilbert aptly puts it: “When I get lonely these days, I think: So be lonely. Learn your way around loneliness. Make a map of it. Sit with it, for once in your life. Welcome to the human experience. But never again use another person’s body or emotions as a scratching post for your own unfulfilled yearnings.” 

Time to Grow as a Person and Learn More About Yourself

As you spend more time on your own, you get to know yourself better. What drives you nuts? What makes you tick? What are you most passionate about? This time around you get the chance to listen to your inner voice without the whole relationship frenzy. You also gets the chance to know what exactly are you looking for in a partner so the next time a boy comes knocking at your door, you can easily recognize if he’s a prince or just one of those frogs you’re done dealing with.

You Get To Appreciate The Right Man When He Shows Up

Once you get to enjoy being alone and once you’ve grown up into the strong and confident woman you ought to be, things will start to fall into their right places. Right at this moment, you know you don’t need a man to complete or make you happy because you’ve learned that you are already whole and that you are your own source of happiness. So once a man walks into your life, you get to appreciate him for who he really is, bare from all the expectations you’ve formulated inside of your head. You get to admire his rawness, genuineness and sincerity because you’re already over the hang ups of your past heart break.

Images: Pinterest, PixHome, CupOfJo, LovePanky | MYC Writer: Jessa Ann Z. Gomez

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