Looking for Your Soulmate? Here Are Two Ways to Find Out
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Many people believe in the idea of a “soulmate” – that there is one other person in the world with whom we are meant to be, either for a moment or for a lifetime.
However, a soulmate doesn’t have to exist only in a romantic context. Here are two ways to find out if someone out there is your soulmate:
You Both Share a Deep Connection
Your soulmate can just be another person with whom you share a deep, palpable connection. If you feel a sense of familiarity and comfort around that other person and find it easy to be vulnerable in front of them, chances are you may have found your soulmate. Psychologist Dr Sue Johnson says, "It is the one who opens up to you – who lets you in, so you can see them – this is the kind of person who takes risks and shares about their inner world, their emotions and their needs."
They Challenge You and Show You Who You Truly Are
According to bestselling author Elizabeth Gilbert, "People think a soulmate is your perfect fit, and that's what everyone wants. But a true soulmate is a mirror, the person who shows you everything that's holding you back, the person who brings you to your own attention so you can change your life. A true soulmate is probably the most important person you will ever meet, because they tear down your walls and smack you awake."
As readers of her book Eat, Pray, Love are aware, Gilbert had had a relationship with a man whom she thought to be her soulmate, but she soon found that she was wrong. A friend later told her, "'He probably was. But you don't understand what a soulmate is. You think it's all roses and happiness. A soulmate is somebody who changes you. And then, sometimes, they have to leave because the intensity of the relationship is so much that you can't actually have [stability].’ Whatever they fired up in you, you might have needed fired up," she says. "And then you might need them to go, so that you can go on your journey."
This is to be differentiated from the idea of your partner or spouse. Your partner, Gilbert says, is your friend. “My husband is my best friend,” she says. “He's not the mirror that holds up my flaws. He's just the guy who's like, 'I think you're terrific'... It's just simple, showing up for each other." So even if you find your soulmate, you may actually not want to marry him.
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