Just Got Friendzoned? Here Are 5 Ways to Escape Future Heartache
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Being in the "friend" zone may just be worst place to be. Imagine, after all the time and effort you have put into building a relationship with someone you really like, you'll just find out that the attraction is not mutual. You have helplessly fallen into the “friendship” trap. If you are in this situation, you might choose to stick around hoping that one day your situation would change. But deep inside you already know that is least likely to happen.
If you want to find a relationship that you truly deserve, then you have to get out of the friendzone as soon as possible. Here are some ways you can get out of there now:
Accept your fate
First, you have to ask yourself, am I in the friendzone? Most people who actually are, would be in denial at first. You have to recognize the signs that you have been friendzoned before you can actually move on. Understand that even if someone likes spending time with you, It does not mean that he or she wants to date you or sleep with you. If you have known each other for a very long time and you feel more like a buddy than a love interest to the person you are pursuing, then it's time to get out of there.
Choose to Make a Change
If you are not happy about being in the friendzone, then it's about time to make that decision to do something to change your situation. You do not have to stay friends with someone, If your real intention towards him or her is to be more than that. Let the other person know exactly how you feel about your situation, and that it is not okay for you to be “just friends.”
You cannot really blame anybody else for your misery, and there is no point in complaining about your situation either. Remember that no one can make you feel bad, without your consent. You are in your situation because you allow the other person to treat you that way. If you say “yes” to every request and act like its okay, even if it really isn’t, then you make it easy for people to take you for granted. You should learn to love yourself more and regain some self-respect by learning to say “no” when you are not okay with your situation and when you feel that you are being taken advantage of.
Be Less Available
Let’s face it. You cannot stay friends with someone you are attracted to, or worse, someone you are madly in love with. This person may enjoy your company and has gotten so used to having you around, but lacks interest in getting into a deeper relationship with you. You do not have to stick around for that. Make yourself less available, to make this person realize that your world does not revolve around him or her. Better, yet disappear from his or her life completely. Let this person know that your feelings should not be toyed with and you do not deserve to be treated that way.
Get Back in The Game
It is not exactly a break up, but it would feel that way at first. To help you move on from being in the friendzone, it is best for you to start going out more to meet new people. Take on new hobbies and activities that will allow you to socialize more. Go on adventures and try new things. Start dating again, but this time, make your intentions clear so that you will not fall into the friendzone again.
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