All My Friends are Engaged and I’m Not. Now What?
Posted in: LIFE AND HOME
April 19, 2015
Social media has a way of helping us keep in touch with our friends and making us feel socially inadequate at the same time. Since the advent of making relationships “Facebook official,” it can be too easy to log unto Facebook and have a news feed filled with relationship statuses, engagement photos and wedding information. If you are single, and especially newly single, such updates can feel like the twist of the knife. Here’s how to handle feeling like a social misfit:
Nothing is Wrong With You
Take a look at this inspiring perception from Every Single Day, a women’s devotional site. “When someone fails to text us, or when someone breaks up with us, or when we are single for longer than we ever intended, we tend to beat up on ourselves. When people ask us, “Why are you still single?” or say things like, “What? You’re not married yet?!” or “What’s a pretty girl like you still doing without a boyfriend or husband?” we tend to interpret this to mean that something is inherently wrong with us and we are fundamentally flawed. We question ourselves and, while curling into a heap of self-pity, we pick ourselves apart.”
We need to stop it. There is nothing wrong with you. You are enough. You are the right amount of awesome.
Honor Your Life’s Journey
We all have our individual journeys to travel in this life. Our journeys are specific to us. Don’t be ashamed of your journey. If you are not engaged or married yet, maybe you are doing everything right and it’s just not your time. You have your own beautiful story to write and marriage is just one chapter – literally. Instead of spending her twenties and thirties getting married and “breeding” like many of her friends, Kirsten Newman decided to travel. She rejected the notion about one right path in life and details her adventures in her memoir, What I was Doing While You Were Breeding. Instead of cursing this season, spend your time writing the rest of your book and make it worth reading.
Be Genuinely Happy for Your Friend
Friendship is supposed to multiply joy and divide sorrows. We tell our friends good news. This is not the time to be a “hater". If the fact of your friend getting married makes you envious or question yourself, you may need to work on your insecurities. When we have good news to share, we want our loved ones to be happy for us. Contrary to what Facebook shows, engagement is not all roses and dress shopping. There’s a wedding to be planned and family drama to manage. Give the gift of true friendship to your engaged friend and be there for her.
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